“Potty Train in 3 Days.”
“The best time to Potty Train is 22 months.”
“All the people I know Potty Trained Wrong, Here’s How…”
I have read every resource on Potty Training. Books for boys, ebooks for a weekend guaranteed, and even articles on why everyone is wrong. As a Special Needs Mom I have found most of these miss the mark, ignore the extra needs we face, and shame those that aren’t “normal.”
My son is 3 1/2 and taller than most of the children in his age range. Complete strangers like to tell us why he should be trained by now. We have been working on it for a year. We have tried every method from sit it out to bribery. The truth is that all of these methods are lies, there is no one size fits all approach to children.
Hey special needs mom, it’s okay to listen to your child. Ignore the looks and helpful tips. You know your child, his needs, and when he is ready. Continue to build trust, keep trying, and know you are not alone.
We tried again today. We had as many messes as successes but in this house that was a celebration. My son could do it by himself and he could tell me he made a mess. There were no meltdowns and he didn’t hide in shame. We have so much further to go but little wins add up. I am listening to his needs, we will keep trying. It will take time.
Anyone that has a problem can stay atop of their tower, we are happy down here without you. Feel free Moms to say the same. No parent is superior to you because of arbitrary developmental stages. Our children are not a race to be won. They must be nurtured, loved, and taught. As long as you’re meeting your child’s extra needs, let’s admit how hard that is… Continue to love and nurture, you’re winning at what matters.