You are tired, overwhelmed, rushed, stressed. It never ends. Seriously when do moms get a break? You get up early, you go to bed late. You’re behind on tv and you can never seem to make it out with friends.
Work is tough, you feel guilty all the time. You should be making anything other than what’s for dinner. Forget the plan, you pick up fast food on the way home. Now it’s time for your child’s activity. You’re invested in what he’s doing but you haven’t even had a chance to check in with friends today. Great, now some other mom is giving you the stink eye because you dared to check your phone.
All day you’re on the go, too busy to do anything. You struggle to do the things you love. You hate your day. You do it because that’s what moms do but the entire time you’re wishing you could be anywhere else. You feel crazy and stressed all the time. All you really want is a break, just a moment not to feel like this…
The truth is that we can’t have and be it all. At some point something will give like your health or sanity. Too many moms have gained weight, blamed themselves, while overextended and maxed out. The expectation that one person can do everything, be everything, while maintaining perfection is absurd. Take it from me moms, you’re not crazy you just feel crazed. You’re tired and overtaxed. You’re at the bottom of a never-ending list.
It’s time to address the real problem. You’re not lazy. You’re not ugly. You are overburdened. You do too much. It’s okay to trim back and say no. In fact I’m telling you this month learn to say no. Learn to leave things for tomorrow. Learn to put yourself first. Make the things that matter most to you a priority and if it doesn’t fit in like Elsa “let it go.”
Have you looked at how you spend your day? Analyzed your feelings to ensure that you’re passionate about your activities? Are you invested in yourself and in your family? Do you give back to the people that matter most to you? Do you take time for yourself?
Rather than revel in this competition of too busy, find something you can cut out of your life. Take away a task you hate, or that is overwhelming to your family. Ask for help or pass it on to someone that is more interested in it. Give your time and love to the things that will reward your family and your goals.
The only true way you will ever find balance is to make room in your life for it. You will never be happy as a martyr of busy or to your family. You will never feel really loved at the bottom of that list. You will keep going until you run out and your health or sanity give. You will give more fully to those you love and to what matters most when you are full in spirit and health. When you are a person first.