Non Scale Victories
Since July I have worked out five to six days a week. I’ve eaten mostly clean, I’ve given up desserts. I’ve had maybe three cocktails. I have pushed my body to the limits. I have built strength and endurance. I have become the most fit I have ever been.
I do not look as fit as I am. I still battle a very prevalent mom belly. My body is completely resistant to giving it up. I have doubled my work outs. I have increased my training and knowledge. I have given up cheat meals. I still look soft around the edges.
When I was at my skinniest I couldn’t run a mile. I couldn’t do a single push up. I wasn’t actually fit. I just looked the part. I was continually starving myself because I couldn’t afford to eat and because I had a wedding coming up. I followed every diet including atkins, nothing could help me get the ideal body.
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The people you surround yourself with matter. When you have good days, they’re just part of the cheer section. You may not hear their voices but you know they’re there. But inevitably you will have a bad day. You will struggle. You will doubt yourself. You will fear success.
You will want to crawl into a cave and hibernate. You will question why you ever thought you could do anything. You are cruel to yourself. You’re unforgiving of mistakes, impatient for success. Every time you fall down you’re right there to batter your pysche. You knew it all along, you can’t do it.
I can tell you that the fear is natural. I’m not sure if we’re taught to be mediocre or if it’s just a side affect of paying taxes. Change is terrifying, deciding to change major aspects of your life seems impossible. Stagnation is common and accepted. It’s so much easier to just give in and accept these things you wish you could change. Everyone knows that those dreams are for other people, not you. I ask why not you?
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I work with am amazing group of people. We decided to make November No-Fear-Vember. We have all been embracing our fear and challenging ourselves. My friend, success partner, and fellow coach wrote for this blog to spread awareness about an syndrome she suffers from PCOS. I am inspired daily by her spirit and tenacity and can’t wait to see her blog grow.
The deal was that she would write to spread awareness and then I would share her blog. It’s taken a little while for her to start. This is a very difficult and fearful process. It is stressful to put yourself out there and often silent. It’s intimidating to share so much and hear so little back. It is time consuming and we share little bits of our soul.
This is also a very rewarding and giving experience. It is amazing to reach people all across the world. To participate in the ongoing cultural conversations and even address issues that shouldn’t be ignored. I am so pleased to share this journey with such a close friend and hope you will give her a chance. Jill can be found at Momonthemoveforlove.com.
We went in the forbidden pink aisles.
I managed to snag the family car and escape, with both boys, to Target. We wandered the aisles with a strict list and stopped only to ooh and aah over every Christmas Tree. We sang carols and walked through the toy aisles. When I asked my boys what toy they wanted my eldest piped in “barbie.” This wasn’t his first request. Since I was by myself I didn’t question it. My spouse is okay with them having “girl” toys but he likes to redirect them to the hot wheels, it is a cost savings measure.
To be fair I took my sons to the hot wheels first and offered a shiny new toy car. Both children shook their heads no, my youngest threw the box at me. Clearly that was a no. I figured if I wandered every aisle that they’d find something else they wanted. Boys aren’t allowed to play with kitchens, or babies, or have little houses. According to the very important color coding my boys are not meant for those aisles. My son’s love Doc Mcstuffins and Sophia The First. They have stuffed characters from both shows. Their Christmas wish list includes Doc’s purple doctor bag, and baby dolls. They love pretend play.
Last year I put such things on their Christmas list. Not only were these things universally ignored, we were chastised for letting our boys play like “girls.” As a girl with four brothers I can tell you, girls can play with the best of them. My sons will likely have children, will cook for themselves, will have to sweep. Telling girls that it’s okay to aspire to these things but forbidden to boys is absurd. I’m not afraid of pink.
Save for an emergency with a second job.
Job searching is hard, soul wrenching work. It seems impossible to stand out from the crowd and get the job. It seems like the bills are ever increasing while job security is declining. If you’re strapped for savings like most Americans, it’s time to get creative.
Your resume is full of what sets you apart. If you really want to maximize your income potential you should consider all of your skills and learn how to itemize your potential. The internet allows everyone the opportunity to network, own their own business, or learn. Whether you crochet or understand html 5 there is plenty of potential for a secondary job. I scoured the internet, personal experience, and friend’s stories to make a list of alternative secondary incomes you can start right away. Take charge of your fiscal future by getting back to work.
Weekly confessions on my journey
As a fitness professional it’s expected that I follow the rules. I work out almost every day, I rarely take a day off. I hardly ever eat out. I eat clean and commit to my daily Shakeology. Sounds good right? Where are those abs? Come one baby belly when will you leave me?
I still cheat almost daily. I allow myself to have one cookie. Sometimes I eat an extra carb. I used to save my cheats for big desserts like ice cream or a snickers. My taste buds have changed so much that these treats are too much, too sweet, they hurt. I end up with sugar headaches or just feel awful. I have found the trick, at least to staying on target, is eating 80/20.
The expectation that anyone should be 100% all the time is too much. It leads to failure, it makes nutrition stressful. That’s how your weight-loss balloons and becomes weight gain. Allowing occasional cheats that are portioned and reasonable is my secret to long term success. To a lifestyle over a fad diet. I’ve tried both and if you want to sustain your results 80/20 is key.
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It’s Time To Date Yourself
The longest relationship you’ll ever have is the one with yourself. This is also the relationship that takes the most abuse and neglect. If you were checking out your virtual dating profile, would you be into you? Do you cultivate the things that make you love yourself? Do you actually love yourself?
Because this relationship is natural and enduring, you can’t just divorce yourself, it is easy to ignore. We aren’t really taught how to be alone or grow such a relationship. In fact most of my life I have been groomed for being in a relationship with a man. There was never any consideration for how I might view myself, how I might have value outside of a man. I’m sure the thought alone would alarm my parent.
I am in an enduring marriage. I am happily married. I honestly have spent very little of my adult life single. Although I have spent much of that time with myself. My spouse was military and then security and still works long hours. The first hardship of motherhood was the long hours alone. I struggled to entertain myself because I couldn’t stand to be alone. I was drowning in me…